Everything Under Control

Is it possible that you feel anxious when you know everything is not under control?

Have you ever thought things like: “what if I do that, and I can’t get away?”
or “what if I go there, and I feel weird, I feel those symptoms, then what?”

For me personally, I needed to know the way out. In restaurants, I would never let anyone sit in my way (when I need to get up and run, I need to be able to), in planes I never wanted to sit next to the window, with my car I would avoid Highways, or bridges or tunnels, because you can’t stop on them.

But it went way further than this. I also wanted everything to be perfect, to go exactly as planned. When I had to go somewhere or do something, I would have been imagining every possible outcome for weeks… and when reality was different, I felt anxious, because I couldn’t control the situation.

Do you know anyone who is like this?

I was anticipating everything. If I had to go to a family party for instance, I would be imagining where the exits were, where I would sit, at what time I would leave my house, I made sure I didn’t have any stressful events the days before and so on. Funny right?

And because so often you simply cannot control things, I would:

- avoid them altogether
- stress about them for weeks and weeks and even lose sleep over them

I didn’t have a great life anymore because of this and got some serious panic attacks.

But then in 2004 I found the solution to my panic attacks and to situations like these here. There’s a lot I did to stop them, but I want to let you in on one of my little secrets already.

In 2004 I met this actor and he had to go to the Tonight Show later that night. His Manager asked him: “are you prepared, do you know what you will say?”

And the actor said: “I’ll see what I say when I say it”.

Wow. How powerful is that attitude?

So I tried it on many things. “What if I… well… I’ll see it when it happens, I’m not going to waste another second thinking about it or avoiding it UNTIL it actually happens”.

And I was free… really!

Now it’s easier said than done and I had to use other techniques as well. If you’re interested and would like to receive some free videos etc about this, you can sign up for my weekly newsletter below!

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